A difference in the opinions, values, understandings and thought processes of individuals lead to a conflict. When individuals strongly oppose each others ideas and concepts, a conflict starts. It has been observed that when people think in dissimilar ways and are not willing to compromise at all, conflict arises.
Conflict can start anytime and at any place when individuals are not ready to accept the middle path approach. A conflict results in verbal arguments, abuses, tensions and also spoils relationships.
Before starting any conflict one should take some time out to think, How will this fight benefit me? Is it going to provide me any solution ?
Nothing beneficial and productive comes out of a conflict. It is simply a wastage of time and energy for and thus every individual should try his level best to prevent conflict.
First learn to keep a control on your emotions. Never ever get too hyper or overreact as it leads you nowhere. Always remember the other individual you are dealing with might not be as educated as you, might not be from the same background as you are, but you have no right to ridicule his opinions. Be a good and a patient listener. Listen carefully what the other person has to say and then only give your expert comments.Even if you dont agree to his suggestions, dont just start fighting, instead discuss with him. Both of the individuals must try to compromise to some extent and find a solution. Conflicts only add on to your anxiety and thus it must be avoided at any cost. Never be rigid on any point, instead be flexible and try to find out an alternative.
Learn to keep a control on your tongue. One must think before he speaks. Dont unnecessarily shout on others as it not only spoils the ambience but also brings a lot of negativity around. Soften your voice while interacting with others and learn to adjust with others. Sit with the other person and try to sort out your differences.
Misunderstandings also lead to conflicts, so be very clear and transparent in your communications. Never play with words and the content of your communication has to be specific to avoid conflicts. Do cross check with the speaker whether he has understood everything in the desired form or not, failing which would lead to misunderstandings and eventually to a fight. Effective communication goes a long way in preventing conflicts. Dont always expect the other person to understand everything on his own. It is your moral responsibility to make him aware of what you exactly expect out of him.
Every individual has the right to express his views and opinions, and you have no right to criticize him. If you respect other individuals, you will get respect in return. If a conflict arises among group members; make sure you address all the participants together. The issues and problems must be addressed on an open forum. Personal favours and biases must be avoided for a peaceful environment. Listen to each and everyones opinion and then only take a decision. Be a good leader and try to take everyone along. Keep your mind calm and composed.
Dont feel guilty if you have done anything wrong, instead admit it. Never hesitate to accept your faults. Be the first one to apologize. A small sorry can work wonders and prevent conflicts and unnecessary tensions.
If the other individual is too demanding and adamant and is just not willing to listen, the best solution is to avoid him. You cant be everyones favourite, learn to ignore people who are just not flexible and always ready to initiate a conflict. Dont always bother what the other person has to say about you. Always act in a manner which you think is appropriate and dont just blindly trust the rumor mills.
No one wins in a fight and you gain nothing out of it. As they say Prevention is better than cure, thus a conflict must be prevented at its early stages as it snatches ones mental peace and harmony.
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